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“I Only Date White Guys,” She Said To Me, a (Mostly) White Guy
Is it racist to not date outside your own race? And why being biracial/biethnic sucks.
She had just broken up with her boyfriend, moved from a small town in Montana to North Dakota to live with a few friends of mine, and had small (almost baby) teeth. I don’t remember much else. She was cute, I guess, dirty blonde, blue or green-eyed, with an unremarkable personality. Though I had never shown interest in her, that didn’t stop a certain friend from trying to play Cupid.
“I only date white guys,” she said, my friend reported to me later.
I have to admit, even though I wasn’t attracted to her and had not expressed interest, that stung. We were living in the Martian landscape of the Bakken during the height of the oil boom. Women were few and far between, and usually taken. My friend had moved in with his girlfriend, an attractive and ambitious Philippina who worked at the local paper. I was 30, broke, in debt, having just started a new job. Not exactly in the market or mindset for a partner at the time, but it’s not like I would have turned the right one down had she come along.
Like any typical guy or girl, I’d been rejected for all kinds of reasons in the past. And most times, it never bothered me. Except…
